A Life, Folded

Are you experiencing a sense of dread with fall rolling around, knowing that soon you will have to face the holidays alone? This is completely normal for anyone who has lived through betrayal trauma and is navigating the holidays as a single individual, for perhaps the first time in their lives. Acknowledge that this is hard. Cry if you need to, but perhaps also consider ways of building small moments of joy for yourself during this unexpected pivot in your life.
#alifefolded #holidaystress #holidaystressrelief #holidaystressmanagement #postdivorce #postdivorcelife #narcissist #narcissisticabuseawareness #narcissisticabuserecovery #narcissisticabusesurvivor #narcissistic #betrayaltrauma #betrayaltraumarecovery #betrayaltraumahealing #cheatinghurts #selflove #singleatchristmas

Social media is a fantastic tool to help us stay connected and engaged with friends and acquaintances. It also can be a trap where we envy people's carefully curated posts and photos and begin the comparison game. It is easy to feel like you're less than when comparing your messy insides to a limited, and selected, snapshot glimpse of another's life. And, if you are moving on from a narcissist, they are going to splash their "wonderful" lives all over social media.
Use social media to keep in touch, not to compare. Remember, everyone has a messy life!
#alifefolded #socialmedialies #FOMO #FOMOisreal  #narcissist #narcissisticabuseawareness #narcissisticabuserecovery #narcissisticabusesurvivor #narcissistic
https://headq.org/do-you-use-a-filter-every-time-you-post/

Loneliness is probably the most common emotion that people who are single experience. But is loneliness bad? Is it something to be feared and changed as soon as possible? Not necessarily. What are the positive aspects of loneliness and how can those sometimes unwanted and uncomfortable feelings fuel your healing and potential future relationships for the better?
#alifefolded #lonely #loneliness #lonelywoman
 
 

Have you ever felt like your healing and ability to move on is hinging on the person who has wronged you giving you closure? That the explanation of their "why" is mission-critical for you to be able to find peace? Is their apology and explanation truly necessary in order for you to regain direction and clarity as well as an ability to reclaim your life? No. By their actions, people often give us the closure we need, even if we don't like the way it was packaged. 
#alifefolded #closure #closurewin #ghosted

This episode further debunks the porn myths that "it doesn't hurt anyone" or "it's normal" or "everyone does it" with a hard look at the porn industry's direct ties to the human trafficking trade. Let's educate ourselves about the truth and speak out about human enslavement and objectivation. And let's hold porn users accountable for their personal contribution to sexual slavery.
#alifefolded #stopporn #pornography #pornkills #pornkillslove #pornaddiction #nomore
https://fightthenewdrug.org/
https://www.reuters.com/investigates/section/onlyfans-exposed/

Do you ever feel like you are an other? That the only people in the world who are truly happy are married individuals? Statistics show that in the United States there are equal numbers of married and single people. So why do we feel different? Pain and trauma play a factor. As do movies, books, and tv. "Helpful" friends and family members actually don't help when they say they just want you to be happy...and that means in a relationship. We all get to choose our life path and what that looks like. We all have a place at the table of happiness. No matter what our marital status may be. 
#alifefolded #singlelife #happysingle #happysinglelife

There are an estimated one billion narcissists and Cluster B personality-disordered individuals on our planet right  now. Why do they seem to relish ruining important events? Birthday parties, graduations, family gatherings, vacations, nothing is sacred or immune to their pouting, anger, and outright rage. Even, and sometimes especially, big milestone events in their own children's lives. But if we have knowledge, expect these behaviors, and have a plan for how to respond, we take back our power and peace. 
#alifefolded #narcissist #narcissisticabuseawareness #narcissisticabuserecovery #narcissisticabusesurvivor #narcissistic

Whether we are actively dating or not, it behooves every single person to draw up a list of non-negotiables for a potential future partner. This list may include things like values, attractiveness, success, intellect, and spirituality. However, let's not forget about the most important part of those non-negotiables: you! You may have spent a lifetime where you felt you had to earn love or prove yourself to be lovable. But this is simply not true. Rather than begging or working so hard to prove to a potential partner that you are worth chasing, how about we decide now that if a person isn't showing clear interest, that is a non-negotiable. Love should not be difficult, confusing, and leave you feeling like you will be rejected by simply having basic human needs. You deserve more.
#alifefolded #betrayal #betrayaltrauma #betrayaltraumarecovery #selflovematters #selfcare #datingafterdivorce #datingafterbetrayal