A Life, Folded

We all have natural expectations with committed relationships--that our spouse or partner will be there for us during difficult times. After all, don't we promise in poverty and wealth, in sickness and health? Everyone knows that life brings ups and downs for all relationships. But, that person you have given so much love and support to will do the same when you need a little help. Right? Sadly, partners of narcissistic individuals often find that when they are not highly functioning they are met with disdain, impatience, and dismissal. Why can't a narcissist provide even the most basic care and compassion to those who love them?
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Have you ever had someone respond to your troubles with something like, "Well, I choose to focus on gratitude and what I do have versus what I don't." Ouch! Gratitude is an amazing, and necessary, emotion. Expressing gratitude can do much to improve our lives. However, it can also be a trap. If we constantly force ourselves to put a positive spin on anything that happens, we can repress our feelings versus processing them. We can also stagnate in our personal development because we feel guilty for wanting more in our lives. Be grateful. Be tremendously and profoundly grateful. But don't feel bad about yourself is you are both grateful and experiencing a struggle. Life is full of duality and a "but-and" attitude can help us to acknowledge difficulties, and still process our pain. 
#alifefolded #laineycathan #gratitude #gratitudetrap #guiltfree #emotionsmatter #processingemotions #feelingsarevalid #feelingsarereal

There is a somewhat predicable pattern that narcissists use when securing their next source of supply or fuel. Or, when keeping their current supply at the ready. That is targeting, love bombing, devaluing, and discarding. This cycle will continually perpetuate itself unless we become educated, aware, and boundaried. We have a right be loved and honored by healthy individuals. Only we can end the narcissistic cycle of toxicity and pain.
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When you hear of someone struggling, do you want to jump in and help? Solve the problem? Or tell them how you know exactly how they feel? Well, congratulations, you are just like everyone else! It is a beautiful facet of human behavior that we want to help. But, ironically, when we say things with intended empathy such as, "I know exactly how you feel," we actually aren't displaying empathy. Even in very similar circumstances, we can never know precisely how someone else feels. By saying things such as that, we are unintentionally turning the conversation to ourselves. It is counterintuitive to be sure, but in this episode, we explore some alternative ways to listen and display empathy. 
#alifefolded #Empathy #Empathymatters #EmpathyInAction #EmpathyFirst #EmpathyChallenge #ihearyou #validation #listen #listeningskills

Research consistently shows that porn consumption is associated with poorer relationship quality and sexual dissatisfaction. The idea that porn is a personal decision that doesn’t affect anyone else is simply not supported by research. Porn use leads to a higher probability of cheating, lying, divorce, abuse, addiction, body dysmorphia, and performance issues. Let’s stop dancing around the lies that porn doesn’t ruins lives. Need we more evidence of the pure selfishness of porn?
#alifefolded #stopporn #pornography #pornkills #pornkillslove #pornaddiction #nomore #fightthenewdrug

Most of us think of the aging process as a mellowing season. Many of us wish that the narcissists in our lives with also mellow with age. Unfortunately, narcissists typically get worse as they get older. They lose their looks and their charisma. They have burned bridges and have a shrinking pool of narcissistic supply to draw upon. Their children become more educated and learn about boundaries. Suddenly, everything is not about them and they no longer command the fear they once did. As a result, they tighten their control. Attempt to isolate their partners more. They become bitter and sarcastic to those who love them. So, if you are waiting for the narcissist in your life to mellow with age, please know that those hopes will most likely never come to fruition. But it is never too late to take care of yourself and refuse to suffer with abuse and manipulation. 
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Harrar, Sari. AARP Bulletin, November/December 2025. Living Solo. How Americans are embracing independence and redefining what it means to age alone.

Are you a fierce champion of others? Are you always at the ready to defend the underdog? Have you noticed, though, that you often struggle with these type of activities when it comes to taking care of yourself? For many of us, we have spent our entire lives having to deny our needs in order to survive. But, when we learn that we are worthy of self-care too and that we are the person best poised to offer that self-care, beautiful things can begin to happen.
#alifefolded #betrayaltrauma #betrayaltraumarecovery #betrayaltraumahealing #selflove #selfcare #selfimprovment #selfawareness #selfreflection #selfloveisthebestlove #selfcarewithpurpose #selfcarewins #selfcarewin

For many of us, growing up with problematic family dynamics or being partnered with emotionally abusive individuals has caused us to become people pleasers. These relationships have left us feeling like there is something inherently wrong with us and we are unlovable. We learned, perhaps at a very young age, that we had to audition or work really hard to earn love. Over time, we might even begin to view healthy partners as boring or that their behavior toward us is not really love, because it isn't challenging. But as we work on our healing, we will desire to show up as our true selves, and not settle for relationships where we are not loved for who we are...flaws and all. 
#alifefolded #unconditionallyloved #unconditionallove #selfcare #selfloveisthebestlove #selflovematters #selfloved #thinkingpatterns