16: Am I A Walking Red Flag?

"It takes two to tango!" "Well, there are two sides to every story." The insinuation in these types of statements can be highly shaming to a victim of insidious narcissistic abuse. It is most often true that the vast majority of relationships are ended through issues from both partners. However, it is not always so black and white. People may be afraid to say it out loud, because of victim shaming and lack of understanding, but many survivors of narcissistic abuse know they are not to blame for the end of their relationships. Of course everyone has faults. But they can confidentially say that they did everything humanly possible to save their marriage and it was ultimately their Cluster B partner who is to blame for the demise of the relationship.

Does this make survivors look like walking red flags? Perhaps. Yes, we should be unflinching in uncovering and healing our myriad faults. But, we do not, and should not, have to accept blame for accusations that we know are simply not founded in reality. 

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