A Life, Folded
Welcome to a space of safety, acceptance, and understanding. Where we frankly dialogue about the harmful effects of pornography, betrayal trauma, and narcissistic emotional abuse. We’ll explore reclaiming your core self by more thoroughly understanding these heartbreakingly complex interpersonal situations, no matter your relationship status. You are not alone in your pain, shame, and disbelief about a reality that can feel like a living nightmare. You might have thought you had a near-perfect relationship and devoted partner. I did. A Life, Folded is hosted by Lainey Cathan, a divorced, Christian woman and active member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints. A little about Lainey: many years ago, I made the devasting discovery of my husband’s hidden life. Eventually, I chose to leave my decades-long union after trying everything humanly possible to save him and our marriage. Once his mask was removed, my unfaithful addict and covert narcissist husband cruelly and deliberately destroyed my heart and soul; but a wise Heavenly Father lovingly and purposefully put me back together. I’m here to help you take a journey from the dark unknown forward into healing and empowering knowledge. Onward. #alifefolded #pornkillslove #betrayaltrauma #emotionalabuse #narcissist
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44 minutes ago
44 minutes ago
D-Day is short for Discovery Day. It's the horrible moment you will most likely remember in minute detail for the rest of your life. The day you found out the person you loved and trusted the most has been unfaithful. It is shocking and unimaginably traumatic. Lainey describes her D-Days and how her narcissistic ex-husband acted like she was at fault for what she found. The episode outlines strategies to heal, protect, and care for yourself during this painful time. #betryaltrauma
Sunday Jan 19, 2025
Sunday Jan 19, 2025
Pornography kills love, ruins lives, creates deep psychological wounds, is addictive, reduces humans to pixels on a screen, and is fueled by one of the most heinous crimes: human trafficking. Lainey discusses how her husband's addiction ruined their marriage, decimated her self-image, destroyed his relationship with his daughters, damaged his connection with God, and nearly cost him his career. By shedding harsh light on the evils of , we can make a choice and say, "No more!"
Monday Jan 13, 2025
Monday Jan 13, 2025
Narcissists can exist in any or all of the aspect of our lives. They may be a member of our family, our spouse, our boss, or even our ecclesiastical leader. One thing they all have in common is the need for the narcissistic discard when their target stops giving them supply. This cruel tossing aside of the innocent human beings who love them is one of the narcissist's cruelest tactics. In this episode, Lainey gives examples of her husband's behavior during her discard phase.
Sunday Jan 05, 2025
Sunday Jan 05, 2025
As a survivor of a spouse's pornography addiction, betrayal trauma, as well as covert narcissistic abuse, this episode introduces the "why" of this podcast.
The resource mentioned in this episode is: Psychopath Free: Recovering from Emotionally Abusive Relationships With Narcissists, Sociopaths, and other Toxic People, by Jackson MacKenzie, Berkley, 2013.
#alifefolded #betrayaltrauma #emotionalabuse